If you are thinking about divorce, it’s best not to re-invent the wheel. Many people have gone through the process before. Some of those who have gone through divorce have made it through all the pain and agony, and have actually become happy again.
Here is an ultimate cheat sheet on how to make it through a divorce.
- Dealing with your feelings and emotions
It’s a good idea to make sure that you did everything that you could to make the marriage work. It is important to have tried dealing head on with the issues in the marriage and even tried marriage counseling.
If you did so, you will have all the needed resolve to go ahead with the process and deal with the consequences.
Once you have tried all avenues to fix your marriage, but still decide to divorce, it’s time to get out this checklist. First of all, to ensure that your emotional well-being remains as intact as can be expected, do the following:
- Stop getting into arguing and shouting matches. Keep calm when talking to your spouse or his/her friends. It will help you remain sane.
- Don’t do anything you will regret in front of the children. They will have a long memory of such incidences and its best to avoid further damage if you can.
- Avoid taking up new bad habits such as binge-eating, binge-drinking, smoking or binge-entertainment through TV or the internet.
- Find the best defense attorney in your area. If you live in Missouri, be sure to get a Louis divorce attorney with advice and experience in divorce matters in the jurisdiction where you seek your divorce.
- Revenge is too expensive a price for your well-being. Since you have decided to divorce, don’t remain emotionally invested in the relationship through bad emotions, it will ruin you.
- Dealing with family and friends
It’s best to have control over how others get to find out about your divorce because they will definitely find out. The best rule of thumb here is to tell family and those who are closest to you first. The sooner you tell them, the better.
Once you have told them, give them and yourself time to adjust. The divorce may be a shocking experience to go through and it’s best to give everyone time to adjust.
- Dealing with Finances
There are several things you could do to take care of your financial situation under the new circumstances.
- Put together all your financial documents. If you need help to do so then get it.
- Open new personal bank accounts
- Divide things as equitably as possible
- Create a budget for your new living expenses after divorce
- Don’t make any rush financial decisions
Having read through this cheat sheet, you have to realize that your particular circumstances may be very unique to you. The best thing to do, as with most cases, is to think everything through, use common sense and use a professional. In this case, a divorce attorney can be very helpful to assist you in steering your way through this process.
About the author
David Trezeguet is an accomplished St. Louis divorce attorney with over 16 years’ experience in his career. He has handled many divorce cases and settlements over the years and has a lot of insight to offer on the best alternatives in the divorce process. Visit his site to read more.